“Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
It would be easy walk in someone else’s footprints–someone who has been there and paved the way. After all, they healed and have a nice little life. It would be easy for you to do exactly what I have done with the confidence that it lead me to a happy ending.
My path is not your path. You need to make your own path. No one’s path fits you except the one you create for yourself. It’s scary. You will often wonder if you are doing the right thing, headed the right direction. The answer is yes–you will do what is right for you.
Use the bits and pieces from the one’s who traveled before you, but make them your own. Choose what you are comfortable with and merge them with your own style and history to create something tailor-made for just you. No expert could do it better.
If you ever feel like you can’t do it alone or are not sure how to climb out of the dark hole, please seek help. There are plenty of people out there to help. Social workers, support groups (going to start my own one day soon), psychologists, and psychiatrist can all offer you a shoulder to lean on, knowledge to learn from. Use their expertise and let them help you find a path that is just right for you.
No matter what path you choose or how long you stay on this journey, you have to know you are never alone. Someone will always be there to help you blaze your own trail.